Help for men helping their families help them

Announcing the Family Support Seriesâ„¢!

This is a new feature that is included in my two premier coaching programs: Engaging the Disquiet Coaching Program and the Empty Success Programâ„¢. As part of their coaching, my clients learn how to support their families while they go through some pretty significant changes.

In other articles, I have talked about the stress on a family when someone undergoes any significant personal change. Most folks don’t think that self improvement work like that found in coaching programs, deep spiritual work, therapy and other endeavors could have a negative impact. It can.

After many years of working around human development, I have watched people who go through significant growth experience stress in their family relationships. Even when change is for the better, change is still change. It raises doubts like, “Will he still love me?”, “Will she change so much, I won’t know who she really is?”, or “I don’t even know what to talk about anymore.”

The stress on the family and the individual going through the change can be so severe that people stop their development, relationships get strained and extra burden is placed on the person experiencing the change.

When my clients start their coaching program, they are told the following:

“You are beginning a coaching program through which you will change. You will be replacing some old ways of moving through life with new ways of seeing and acting. The core you will not be changed. In fact, it will be more visible to the outside world, but sometimes that can be disorientating. It can also be a big adjustment for both you and those closest to you.”

The FSS is comprised of 5 booklets containing specific information, exercises, tips and strategies. Each is sent to the client at strategic points in his coaching program to provide “just in time” support. Below is a summary of what each booklet covers:

Booklet 1: Introduction to the FSS.

Booklet 2: Preparing Yourself and Your Family for Your Coaching Program

• What to tell them about the program
• How to involve them and ask for what you will need
• How to reassure and support them
• Preview of what to expect in the coming months

Booklet 3: The River of Change

• A model of change
• An exercise to help you deepen your understanding
• How to talk about change with your loved ones

Booklet 4: I want the “Old You” back!

• Understanding the invisible pulls from your family
• Action steps to help reduce this pull

Booklet 5: A new you is emerging -be sure to fill them in

• Understanding the new you
• How your loved ones can support “you” sticking around
• How to continue moving forward and include your loved ones
• Important factors for family support

I am very excited to be able to offer this service. I think it will make a huge difference. I will keep you posted as this develops. I predict additional other services around supporting the family will emerge.

“It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear . . . It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to.”

~Marilyn FergusonPreview

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